It’s Good To Be A Man, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant

It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity

A book for every man who yearns to exercise dominion as his Father intended, but doesn’t know how. Get a clear picture of the mission God made men for, how things have gotten so messed up, and how you can be part of correcting it by reforming your life, your family, your church, and ultimately your nation.

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A Systematic Theology for Manhood

This book is is a well-written and timely study on what it means to be a man from a Biblical perspective, particularly in light of modern society’s disdain for Christian principles and the roles that God designed for men (and women) ever since He placed mankind in the Garden of Eden. The book starts with a broad overview of what those roles are, how they were affected by the Fall, how Satan has obfuscated them, and the temptations that are common to all men. It contrasts varying, worldly views of gender/sex, and the natural voids that follow when deviating from our created design (and the men that try to fill them with advice from various sources from PUA’s to Joe Rogan and other secular influences often attempting to replace absent fathers). It details how the wrong influences have affected and imbalanced the modern church. It mentions how these imbalances have affected the pursuit of marriage. And finally, it prods the reader to make realistic goals and plans and walk in the common calling that God has given to every man as they plot their own course in life. It is not meant to be an exhaustive reference or a formulaic self-help book. It is not meant to be a steroid injection to your brain. But it is a systematic approach to Biblical manhood that connected a lot of dots in my own studies, after reading such other books as “No More Christian Nice Guy,” “Raising Men,” and a number of secular influences that seemed to get some things right but contrasted with the “Gentle Jesus, Meek and Mild” mentality that has pervaded the modern church. Go read your Bible, lift some weights, and get this book.

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Emma Whear

Giving it four stars because I’m a female. It’s not for me, so it doesn’t hit the same.

Bought a copy for Ethan for Christmas. We both listen to the podcast and expected the book to be a tidy summary of what we’ve heard before. Pleasantly surprised by how much of it was new/re-framed.

Especially appreciated the chapter “Gravitas by Duty.” If you could only read one chapter, that’d be the one. Clear, concise, convicting (if you were a man, I assume).

I love bullet-points, and that chapter had the perfect smattering of them.

A timely, manly book.

(Also, the cover and weight of the book are aesthetically pleasing).

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Kevin D. Bogus Jr.

Essential reading for every young man.

This book is excellent and timely. This book should be required reading for every young mens discipleship or “youth group”. Young men need to read this in High School and then read it in college and then read it to their sons. It is definitely going on the list of books I intend to read with my four year old when he comes of age. Pastors and Elders should be handing it out to the young men of their congregations.

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Ramon Lago

Must read

Super fun to read. I couldn’t put it down, and finished it within 3 days. I’ve described it as a Handbook and practical theology for faithful masculinity. It’s worth every penny.

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Megan

Stellar book. Though it’s written for men, I read it because I have 3 sons and come from a family with a very quiet, withdrawn father who was dutiful and faithful but not overtly into leading, teaching, or shepherding his family. I wanted to understand more of what we’re shooting for in raising 3 sons, so I can see the vision and help my husband better as our oldest enters his teen years. This book was excellent for that. I think I’m better able to articulate ideas or intuitions about manhood that I had previously only been able to get as far as “this is just how it should be” in my thinking or conversation. This book helped put words and a framework to my thinking, and definitely helped me have a clearer picture of what we’re aiming for and what kind of large-scale concepts and virtues we can hang smaller-scale events, conversations, choices, discipline, etc. on as our boys grow up. It’s also given me helpful tools for talking with my daughter about what makes a good man, and I have no doubt that will be priceless as she gets older and starts considering marriage.

Four stars rather than five because I was a little out off by some of the language, but that may just be because it was written for men, not women, so I wasn’t exactly the target audience. But that was all really minor, and I could see how and why they were using their rhetoric the way they did, so it’s honestly a matter of taste. That, and because I usually reserve 5 star ratings for really spectacular life-changing or deeply moving literary masterpieces.

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James Durham

Dynamite read. Makes good sense!

Four chapters in, and this book is dynamite! Brings the conversation on sexuality into sharp focus. Everything just makes sense. Super helpful read. Bought copies for the men in my family. This book would be a huge benefit for women, too.

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McGeezy

Excellent, practical, well organized book

Authors have clearly thought deeply about this topic through the lens of biblical truth and have presented their case in a cogent, clear and concise way. Recommended timely manual for this age

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Tim

What a refreshing book. Tired of all the hand wringing about what being a Christian man is supposed to look like? Then read this. Warning- massively anti politically correct-and it was all the better for it.

Very entertaining, very biblical, very practical.

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Spencer

In the beginning of the book, the authors express that in writing this book they did not wish to write a timeless work, but a timely one. This indeed is a timely book that every man of this generation should read. It is a refreshingly motivating and uplifting book that challenges men to be who God created them to be, without cowing to the pagan idolatry that is feminism. Great stuff.

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Thomas Carpenter

Foster & Bnonn have been incredibly helpful and practical. This book is encouraging in both the comforting and exhorting way. This gives a challenge to young men, but it’s done with a hand on your shoulder. Good for all dudes, but I think it’ll be especially good for ones who didn’t grow up in solid, robust, Godly homes. Mine was good, but my dad passed away when I was in early high school, and that was preceded by four years of his battling cancer. This book (and the rest of their writing) has been really encouraging to me.

They say something like, “all the problems in your life may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility to stand and act.”

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Justin

For those who have forgotten what it means to be a man

It’s good to be a Man is an excellent guide to godly masculinity. In a time where men are genuinely confused on what their purposes and goals should be as men, this book is a breath of fresh air. This book tackles this confusion from a biblical perspective, looks at how we got where we are, the very real difficulties in being a godly man, and how we can rebuild the walls of a crumbling society again.

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Nick

Nonnegotiable

I have my oldest son reading this and will have all five of his brothers read it when they’re ready. This book fills so many gaps, is very easy to read, and is backed up with scripture at every turn.

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Coleman

I had high expectations for this book. I’ve been following Bnonn and Michael’s work for a while now and I can genuinely say that I was still surprised by how powerful this book is.

This is a very precise work that brings an enriching and deeply theological understanding of masculinity and the role of men in the greater end of creation. It pulls manhood further up and further into ontology and purpose. I thought this was a nice treat near the beginning, but the authors are relentless to hammer this idea out in every chapter.

I have a lot of work to do. But this has not left me discouraged. I am heavy, but hopeful. Well done, men!

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George Luke

Great book. This book is an excellent book to read in synthesis with CR Wiley and Doug Wilson’s family series. “Future Men”, and “Man of the House” all held similar lines of affirming a patriarchal story that our households are all part of. Godly masculinity means patriarchy (not woman bashing, but masculine power that generationally impacts reality and future generations), is inevitable. The question is what kind of patriarch you will be. Coming back for usable suggestions on virtues- strength, wisdom, workmanship, and practical goal setting recommendations for discipleship.

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Anthony Barnhart

a much needed signpost

Michael Foster and Bnonn Tennant have provided a down to earth, to the point, and concise treatment of biblical manhood. This isn’t a self-help book; you won’t find ten-step plans to live your best life now. Nor is it a flowery book; when three words work, you won’t find fifteen (I found this to be a masculine characteristic in a masculine book).

The book begins with the authors laying down the foundation of all that follows: God has created a world in which men are to rule. This rule is part of the fabric of the cosmos, and it’s unavoidable. Men are to have dominion over themselves, their households, and in the wider world. The rest of the book seeks to flesh this out in the various spheres of life. Subjects such as sex, marriage, brotherhood, discipline, and mission are covered. This book works well alongside C.R. Wiley’s “The Household and the War for the Cosmos” and Zachary Garris’ “Masculine Christianity.”

I won’t go into great detail on each of the chapters; other reviewers are far more suited to this task than I am. I will say, at least, that this book is sorely needed in a western culture that has not only rejected the goodness of masculinity but even masculinity itself. It is GOOD to be a man; it isn’t something to be ashamed of or to apologize for. It is GOOD to pursue manhood if you are a man. This isn’t to say it’s bad to be a woman, and the authors in no way seem to hold that view. This isn’t another red pill word dump. Nor is this book a reaction to feminism; the authors don’t seem interested in arguing against feminism so much as they are interested in promoting and praising godly masculinity. Our sons and daughters need to know that it is good to be who God created them to be, and in a culture - and even in a church culture - that has lost sight of this, it’s good to have some signposts showing the way. This book is one such signpost.

A four-star review is appropriate for a great book that gives lots of information. This book gets five stars because not only does it give lots of great information, but it also has a certain gravitas that strengthens and encourages you in your pursuit of godly masculine living. The chapter on mission, for me, was particularly engaging, and I’m sure I’ll be going back to it again. The book would be worth the purchase for that chapter alone.

I purchased this book on Kindle, and I have a copy coming from Canon Press. It’ll be a good and certainly well-worn book on my shelf.

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Coleman Barbour

Robust, Timely, Biblical

Finally, someone has provided a thoroughly Christian response to the secular resurgence and eclesiatical decline of masculinity. For years, the likes of Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan have been dancing around truths about manhood that crop up in nature without providing a true ontological root.

Bnonn and Michael have not simply fleshed out these ideas with the bible, rather they have built up a biblical view of manhood from the first pages of scripture to the last, thus revealing that the secular manosphere and darkweb heroes have simply stumbled around the truths that are readily available in the scriptures.

I was encouraged and sobered. There is so much work to do! I was left feeling heavy by the weight of the challenge of this book, but I was left with even greater hope. We were made to be men and that is worth celebrating.

If you are looking for a “Eat meat, lift weights, and shoot guns.” kind of book on manhood, this isn’t it. Nor is it effeminate or soft in any way. However, if you want to be seriously challenged by biblical insights into what you’re designed to be, then read this book. It really is good to be a man.

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Florida

So good I read it twice.

This book is what Wild at Heart was meant to be. But instead of pop psychology, its filled with scripture. Instead of and step by step instructions its filled with guiding principles.

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K. VanGelder

Encoraging and inspiring!

It was so good that as soon as I finished it I went and bought 20 extra copies to give away to friends!

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Nick Solheim

Michael Foster and Dominic Bnonn Tennant’s It’s Good to Be a Man is the Christ-centered answer to red-pill Reddit, feminists, and limp-wristed evangelicals who refute men’s godly duty to exercise dominion over creation, communities, and families. This book should be a priority for every Christ-following man in the West.

The authors expertly weave Scripture, metaphor, and life-experience together to create a handbook to building a moral compass tuned toward Christ. Foster and Tennant reclaim dominion, masculinity, and headship for men without devolving into women-hating, misogyny, or carelessness.

One of the greatest things about this book is its order. The authors emphasize that to become a man, one must first have a mission, and a brotherhood with which to conquer the mission. Only then will your life be ripe for finding a wife. It’s Good to Be a Man is not a self-help book, it is not a guide to finding a wife, nor is it a guide to becoming a millionaire. It is a bright, flashing sign pointing men everywhere toward the headship of Christ Jesus.

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SH

Amazing book

I love the high quality material the book is made of but much more than that I love the words within. An excellent read with a powerful and much needed message for today’s men.

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mark

One of the best books for men out there, and it is different than your typical manhood book.

This is a much needed book for men today. This book points men in the right direction, but it is the responsibility of the men themselves to walk down the path. The wisdom of Michael Foster and Bnonn Tennant is refreshing, challenging, and encouraging. If you don’t want to be challenged don’t read this book, but if you want to grow in wisdom in the ways of men, devour this book and read it again. The bible says: “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” 1st Corinthians 16:13, and this book will help you with that.

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Doug Wilson

This book is an exercise in moderate extremism, or perhaps you might want to call it radical moderation.

There are truths out there in the world that—twenty years ago—everyone either knew or pretended to know. And, as you should know by now, an extremist in 2022 is a moderate of twenty years ago who refused to move with the times.

Written by Michael Foster and Dominic Bnonn Tennant, who has way too many n’s in his name if you ask me (seven), this book is a sane and measured response to the gender craziness out there. That craziness has seized the modern world by the throat and is squeezing us until our eyes pop out like they did in the old Tom & Jerry cartoons, and a response was called for. Because of all the crazy out there, not a few refugees (including Christians) have started to look longingly at Red Pill World, which is a world of reaction.

But a Christian should always act, never react. This book is a careful, balanced, scriptural look at the task that God has assigned to men, and is a celebration of God’s good wisdom. And God is willing to give men the grace and ability to do what they were created and called to do—so men should make sure that they know what they are asking for. This is not possible apart from looking to Scripture for our answers. A man is not a deficient woman, and a woman is not a deficient man. God’s calling and God’s gifting line up.

This book is highly recommended—for pastors, for parents, for teachers. If you have young men in your life, this book is essential.

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G.M. Burrow

One of the best books I’ve ever read. I devoured it like a novel. Biblical, bracing, powerful, gripping, easy to read, encouraging, and absolutely necessary. Everyone should read this book. If you are a man, or you want to marry a man, or you’re raising future men, or you’re writing about fictional male characters, read this book. Order it now. Put it at the top of your list. You can’t afford to go without it.

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John

There is a crisis in masculinity today that many have been working to address. Doug Wilson has written some good stuff on the topic, but nothing quite like this one. The closest comparison I can think of is Richard Phillips’s excellent work “The Masculine Mandate”. Comparisons between the two will be inevitable in my mind, as they are both written for the same kind of audience with much of the same kind of material.

The main strengths that resonated with me in this book is the visceral, creational normativity of masculinity. One of the things that is striking about this book is the way the authors work to unapologetically harness the way God made men. They do this by setting our masculinity crisis in the context of the feminization of the world.

God made men for specific tasks and so there is nothing disordered about man’s strengths. But man’s strengths need to be harnessed to fulfill God’s dominion mandate. Don’t fight against the way God made you–rather, use God’s gifting to accomplish his purposes.

This book is inspiring and uplifting. This is what men need to hear today. God gave you a purpose and you can do it! Man up!

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Jay

Great book for men and soon-to-be men

This is such a good and needed book on manhood. I read it with my teenage sons, and it helped us talk about so many critical subjects. I highly recommend it for other men and boys, especially if you are unsure of your purpose in life, or are tempted to believe that masculinity is toxic or that patriarchy is bad for the world.

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Daniel Stice

Rebuild The Walls

This book is pivotal for the culture of Christian men today in the best way. Society is against us, we’ve grown weak, ignorant, and unfathered; the walls are torn down and the society has suffered for it. Because our Lord Jesus Christ sits on His throne, through His strength we can rebuild. To rebuild what was lost, you need to start somewhere. The principles in this book is that place.

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John Weis

Foster and Tennant put forward a clear and helpful vision of God’s good design of masculinity. They outline some of the aspects of our current cultural crisis of sexual confusion and the individual responsibility we each bear in recovering what used to be “common sense” wisdom.

This book is extremely readable and practical, and I’m sure will help many Christian men navigate a path toward mature manhood.

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Mac

Overheating

I can’t seem to read this book for more than 10 minutes because my devices keep overheating from ALL THIS FIRE!

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Men were made to rule. They always have and always will. Nothing can change that. Nothing will. It is not a question of whether men will be ruling, but which ones and how. —It’s Good To Be A Man, chapter 1

If you were “under-fathered”…if you aren’t sure what it means to be a man in a culture that treats your God-given instincts as toxic…if you feel like you need to check your testicles in at the church door…if you sense that being more godly means becoming more feminine…this book is for you.

Our modern society has called for us to “smash the patriarchy,” and the church has not done much better.

Instead of telling men how they can hone and refine their aggressive traits, the church has told men that they should aspire to be meek servant-leaders—and when a man shows any signs of independence, he is shown the door.

This leaves most young men lost. They don’t know what to do or how to improve, so they watch Jordan Peterson videos on YouTube to learn how to grow in their masculinity and sense of mission.

In this book, we remind men that their natural aggressive instincts are gifts from God that are meant to be used for the kingdom. Men are supposed to found households, join brotherhoods, and work towards a mission.

It’s Good to Be A Man offers a quick guide, grounded in biblical exegesis and theology, to where you are as a man, and how you can move forward in the direction God designed.

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  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant
  • It's Good To Be A Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity, by Michael Foster & Dominic Bnonn Tennant

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  1. The War between Patriarchies
  2. Masculinity Is Very Good
  3. Sex Is Very Good
  4. The War on Sex
  5. Spiritual War & Spiritual Worship
  6. Toxic Sexuality
  7. The Church Effeminate
  8. No Father, No Manhood
  9. No Gravitas, No Manhood
  10. Gravitas through Duty
  11. How to Bear the Weight
  12. Manhood through Mission
  13. The Necessity of Fraternity
  14. The Excellence of Marriage

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Nope. The book is influenced by church fathers like Origen and Chrysostom, stands self-consciously in the tradition of Reformers like John Calvin and John Knox, and develops the work of great theologians like C.H. Spurgeon, R.L. Dabney, Herman Bavinck, Werner Neuer and William Gouge. The authors are committed to historic Christian orthodoxy. Here is how they articulate their view:

  1. We believe the Bible to be the inerrant Word of God, our only ultimate and infallible authority, sufficient to fully equip us with wisdom for salvation and godly living.

  2. We believe that there is one God, eternally existent in three Persons; Father, Son and Holy Spirit. He is limited by nothing other than His own nature and character, which is holy, righteous, good, severe, loving and merciful. He made everything that has been made, and all very good.

  3. We believe in the true deity and full humanity of our Lord Jesus Christ; in His virgin birth; in His sinless life; in His miracles; in His vicarious and atoning death through His shed blood; in His bodily resurrection for our justification; in His ascension to the right hand of the Father from where he now reigns over every created thing; and in His personal future return in power and glory.

  4. We believe in the full deity of the Holy Spirit, acknowledging Him together with the Father and the Son in the works of creation and redemption; and in His present ministry indwelling Christians, enabling them to live godly lives.

  5. We believe that because of Adam’s sin all mankind is in rebellion against God; that for the salvation of such men, regeneration by the Holy Spirit is absolutely necessary; that this salvation is by grace alone, through faith alone; and that our works can add nothing to our standing before God, although faith without works is dead.

  6. We believe in the resurrection of both the saved and the lost; the saved to the resurrection of life, and the lost to the resurrection of damnation.

  7. We believe in the spiritual unity of all believers in our Lord Jesus Christ.

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To date, we have only a single negative review, from one Stephanie Baer:

Stephanie Baer

Horrible, sexist, damaging ideology
This book and authors are absolutely horrid. The claims made here are awful. This book is filled with an extreme cult mindset and laden with sexism. That’s not God. That is a man with a toxic God complex.

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Aside from the unironic use of the phrase “absolutely horrid,” we were tickled to discover that Ms. Baer also gave 5 stars to a book by Rob Bell, and loved Juliet Diaz’s Witchery: Embrace the Witch Within—an “amazing and magickal book” that shows you how to practice witchcraft your way and “breaks down spells and rituals so simply.”

If you think you might enjoy a book denounced by a practicing witch who was “born and raised in the patriarchy of the Christian church,” why not grab a copy now?

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It’s Good To Be A Man the book is the result of a ministry by the same name. It is run by Michael Foster and Bnonn Tennant with the goal of bringing together, equipping, and being sharpened by a worldwide community of men. We want to reform and repair God’s house on a large scale by finding ways to build up large numbers of men into godly and effective patriarchs. Read more about us here »